Giving money to family sucks

So my father-in-law lost his job back in April. I kind of lost a little respect for him because he found out in February that he was going to be losing his job, but wasn’t going to bother to start looking until it happens. He wanted to just collect unemployment like everybody else that has lost their job recently. That’s not really cool in my book. Jobs are pretty scarce in central Minnesota where he lives, especially for someone with no education, and not many skills.

Over the last couple months we have given him $1700 and another $600 for some home repairs. I have no problem helping someone out when they come upon hard times, but it’s hard for me to give money to someone that should have been looking for a job in February, and waited until May to start looking. I can’t stand laziness.
It feels like we are getting taken advantage of because we were smart and went to school to get good jobs. Both of my wife’s brothers are losers too, and don’t have a pot to piss in, so when anyone ask for money they come to use. Thankfully she refuses to give money to her brothers.

We always seem to get stuck with the bill on all the combined gifts also. When her cousin graduated high school we bought her a Roku since she liked ours so much. It was from my wife’s parents, two brothers, and us, but we paid for it. For Christmas we bought her Grandpa a new TV and split it among the families. Of course we got stuck with paying her parents, and two brothers share along with ours. I hate to complain about money, but it drives me crazy when people are too irresponsible to take care of their own finances. Seriously, just get that one consultation from accountants Bundaberg and you’re ok.

Tonight my wife is sending her Dad another $500 and she wrote a resume out for him. Hopefully he gets a job soon. I’m getting sick of sending him money.